Not long ago one of my daughters made the comment that when her dad is old and can’t look after himself she wouldn’t be taking care of him, he would be going into a home……………………lol
Now some people would get upset by such a statement but not me or Tim…………….why because we do not want to be a burden on our children when we are old and unable to take care of ourselves. I have always said when that time comes but me in a nursing home, now some people think of nursing homes as terrible places and yes there may be some terrible nursing homes but many a good. They are clean and staffed by caring people who do their best for those who live in the home.
This makes me think about my nan, I can remember my nan saying many times that she didn’t want to go into a nursing home but she really didn’t think there would come a time when she would not be able to take care of herself. However that is what has happened, the Alzheimer’s has taken so much from her, she no longer can walk, bath herself or go to the toilet or feed herself. Even though me and mum go to see her every Wednesday I don’t know if she knows who we are anymore, sometimes she seems to other times she doesn’t. She thinks of my uncle as a little boy not a man in his 50’s.
I know some think that we take care of our children when they are young and unable to care for themselves and in such they must take care of us when we are unable to care for ourselves but I am not like that. I think it is wrong it is one thing if we are able to go to the toilet, bath and feed ourselves but if we can’t do those things we shouldn’t expect our children to do so for us.